People endure terrible tragedy, with many of them eventually passing through their dark time to a brighter day. They become more appreciative of life. How do they do it? They never forget, but they don’t let painful memories stop them from growing spiritually.

We should empathize with those going through a terrible time. They need our care and support. But when someone you care for goes through major turmoil and doesn’t move beyond their sorrow, becoming stuck in their grief instead of finding the joy in life, you need to help guide them if you can.

Cynicism is destructive. Instead of seeing the good in others, we criticize them as being evil or corrupt. Instead, we should be looking inward to see what our own issues might be.

Such a negative mindset evokes contempt in your soul. It’s vital for your spirit to see the good in others. All of us have some potential which is worthwhile. 

When greeting a mourner, most people say something like, “I’m sorry for your loss.” This is like what’s in the middle of a bagel. It’s cliché. They will respond with a smile and a thank you, to make you feel better for your lack of originality. So what should you say?

One way is to make them laugh, or at least make them smile. This will ease their anguish, as you will remind them of the joy in life.

Or say words of strength and praise to understand that their loss is not an affliction against them. It will help them find acceptance, feel better, and have a quicker recovery from their mourning.

Then you will have done a very good deed. It will make both of your spirits smile.

Would I change anything in my life? No. Anything I changed in the past would change who I am today. I have faults, but I like myself and have confidence to believe I can do almost anything I put my mind to.

Love who you are, be positive about who and what you can still become, and know you can accomplish almost anything you want to. Self-confidence is not just a human quality, it’s central to what we accomplish.